Negative Impacts of Constantly Correcting Your Children

• Children tend to grow dishonest. It is evident from multiple studies that children who are constantly corrected by their parents, are more likely to behave aggressively in social interactions, which increases their tendency to fight, lie to their parents, or turn into a rebel. They find it easier to be dishonest to avoid getting into trouble with their parents.
• Damaging self-esteem. When children are constantly corrected, they may start to feel like they can't do anything right. This can erode their confidence and make them doubt their abilities. Overtime, this can lead to low self-esteem, and a fear of trying new things.
• Stifling creativity and independence. Constant correction can inhibit a child's creativity and willingness to explore. If they're always being told what to do or how to do it, they may become overly reliant on others' opinions instead of developing their own problem-solving, skills and independent thinking.
• Creating anxiety and stress. Children who are frequently corrected, may become anxious about making mistakes. This can create a stressful environment, where they feel pressure to be perfect, leading to unnecessary worry, and even resentment.
• Straining parent-child relationships. The constant need to correct can strain the bond between parent and child. Children might start to feel criticized rather than supported, which can create distance in the relationship. They might also start to tune out the corrections, rendering them less effective over time.
• Inhibiting emotional growth. Children learned through experience, including making mistakes. By allowing them to make and learn from those mistakes, we help them develop emotional resilience and problem-solving skills. Overcorrection can deprive them of these valuable learning opportunities.

Simple Everyday Affirmations For Kids

Signs That Your Child Trusts You Deeply

Every parent must talk to their child about creating their "Inner Kind Voice".
Practice "I am" statements with your child.

• I am important
• I am lvoed
• I am kind
• I am safe
• I am a good friend
• I believe in myself
• I can do hard things
• I have great ideas
• I am learning/I try my best
• I am a great thinker

• They call for you or seek you out for comfort and reassurance when they are feeling overwhelmed.
• They feel safe being their most vulnerable self with you, (yes, this means tantrums/meltdowns and sharing all the spectrums of feelings).
• They run to find you to share new things they have learned or are excited about.
• They seek you out for playing involve you in their interests.
• They randomly share their love for you verbally ("I love you") or through small acknowledgment gifts (flowers they pick or drawings they make).
• They are open about their mistakes and share them with you.

10 Things to Say to Your Child That Feel Like Giant Hugs

6 Phrases to Teach Kids to Stand Up for Themselves

• I love being your parent.
• You're so special to me.
• You make met heart so happy.
• I believe in you, and I trust you.
• It's okay to make mistakes. That is how we learn.
• I love spending time with you.
• It's okay to feel what you are feeling.
• You don't have to be perfect to be loved.
• That you for sharing with me.
• I love you and I'm here for you no matter what.

• I'm playing with this right now, you can have a turn when I'm finished
• I can do it myself, thank you.
• I don't want a hug right now, but we can do a high-five instead.
• That hurts my feelings, please stop saying things like that.
• Please ask before taking my things.
• You're hurting me. I'm going to find someone else to play with.

What Anxiety Looks Like in Kids with ADHD

Things Kids with ADHD Want to Hear When They Mess Up

• Avoiding tasks that seem overwhelming
• Frequent stomach aches or head aches
• Difficulty focusing or completing tasks
• Extreme fear of making mistakes
• Constantly asking for reassurance
• Meltdowns over small changes
• Sleep disturbances
• Needing to be in control
• Withdrawing from social situations
• Excessive worry about what others think

• What do you think made this difficult?
• It's okay to feel frustrated. Let's figure out what's making this hard.
• I see you're trying. What's one small step we can take to do it differently next time?
• Sometimes our brains just need more practice. We can work on this together.
• What could help make this easier for you next time?
• It's not about getting it perfect, it's about learning along the way.
• Mistakes help your brain grow. What did we learn from this?
• How an I support you better when this happens?

What to Say During Those "I Don't Want To" Moments

Things to Say When You're Child is Feeling Overwhelmed

• I understand you don't feel like doing this, but it has to be done. What can we do to make it feel easier?
• Would you rather start with this part or that part? You get to choose.
• Let's set a timer and see how quickly you can finish this. Ready?
• I know it feels difficult, but we have to get this done. Is there a way we can make it into a game?
• First, we'll finish this task, and then you can choose something fun to do afterwards..
• I hear you don't want to do this, but it's important. Where do you think we should start?

• I can tell you're feeling overwhelmed. Let's break this into smaller steps together.
• It looks like you have a lot on your plate. What can I help with?
• Please take a few minutes to breathe and calm our bodies down before we keep going.
• I am here to support you, let's take this one thing at a time.
  
• You don't have to do everything at once; let's prioritize what's most important.
• It's okay to take a break when things feel like too much.
• How can I help you feel less overwhelmed?
• Let's make a plan together, so this doesn't feel so big.

Breaking the Cycle: 3 Ways To Make a Big Impact

1. You Apologize to Your Child. Apologizing teaches your child accountability and how to handle mistakes, helping them, learn, emotional intelligence, and build resilience.
2. You Prioritize Connection Over Control. Focusing on understanding your child's emotions while maintaining boundaries rather than just controlling their behavior, builds trust and emotional security, leading to a more secure attachment and healthy relationships long-term.
3. You Do Your Best to Develop and Model Emotional Regulation. Children learn to manage their own feelings by watching, how you can manage, frustration or overwhelm, during stressful moments, making it easier for them to develop their own self regulation skills.

5 Effective Ways to Apologize to Your Kids

• "I'm sorry I didn't handle that well. I'd like to make it up to you. What would make you feel better?"
• "I'm sorry I overreacted and yelled at you. You don't ever deserve to be spoken to that way. Next time I'll try to explain myself calmly."
• "Thank you for helping me see how my reaction hurt you. I'm sorry."
• "I am sorry, I will learn from this and try to do better next time."
• "I know I hurt your feelings when I lost my temper. I am responsible for my actions, no matter how upset I'm feeling."