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Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT, is a clinician, researcher, teacher, and developer of A Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy® (PACT). He has a clinical practice in Calabasas, CA, where he has specialized in working with couples and individuals who wish to be in relationships. He and his wife, Tracey Boldemann-Tatkin, developed the PACT Institute for the purpose of training other psychotherapists to use this method in their clinical practice.

 Listen to an interview with Stan Tatkin about healthy relationships

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In Each Other's Care: A Guide to the Most Common Relationship Conflicts and How to Work Through Them.
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Few things are more frustrating than repeating the same fight with your partner. Playing out the same disagreement about money, parenting, sex, or household chores may leave you exhausted, cut off from the person you want to feel close to. While conflict in any relationship is inevitable, healing is possible. With
 In Each Other's Care, Stan Tatkin shares a hands-on repair manual that will help you discover how arguments get triggered, why they keep happening, and what you can do to get better at communicating what you want without the drama.

Drawing on his vast experience as a couples therapist, Tatkin uses the concept of secure functioning―a two-person psychological system of teamwork, full collaboration, and cooperation based on fairness, justice, and mutual sensitivity. This form of unionizing “takes time to learn,” Tatkin says. “And still, the rewards are awesome and make the effort worthwhile. Secure functioning benefits you, your partner, your family, your friends, everything, and everyone.”

Throughout 
In Each Other’s Care, Tatkin offers targeted lessons, sample dialogues, and heartfelt wisdom. Through this life-changing practice, you will be able to:
  • Identify the source of unhappiness in your relationship
  • Learn techniques for preventing problems before they occur
  • Heal the emotional wounds of the past 
  • Transform conflict and struggle into win-win outcomes
  • Renew broken connections and return to intimacy
Whether you’ve been in a relationship for years or are just beginning the journey, In Each Other’s Care is a wonderfully supportive guide that will show you how to work through even the most contentious topics with compassion and respect.

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An indispensable guide for any couple ready to set the foundation for a loving and lasting union
"All successful long-term relationships are secure relationships," writes psychotherapist Stan Tatkin. "You and your partner take care of each other in a way that ensures you both feel safe, protected, accepted, and secure at all times."
In We Do, Tatkin provides a groundbreaking guide for couples. You'll figure out whether you and your partner are right for each other in the long term, and if so, give your relationship a strong foundation so you can enjoy a secure and lasting love. Highlights include:
  • Create a shared vision for your relationship, the key to a strong foundation It's all about prevention–learn tools and techniques for preventing problems before they occur.
  • Numerous case studies with helpful examples of healthy and unhealthy interactions, sample dialogues, and reflections.
  • Dozens of exercises to develop intimacy and security. Handling conflict – how to broker win-win outcomes.
  • Build a loving relationship that helps you thrive and grow as both individuals and a couple.
Common interests, physical attraction, shared values, and good communication skills are the factors most commonly thought to indicate a good partnership. Yet surprisingly, current research reveals that these are only a small part of what makes for a healthy marriage–much more important are psychological and biological influences. With We Do, you'll learn to navigate these elements and more, giving your relationship the best possible chance to succeed.

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